As she recounts her experience and the way it made her feel, you start to list all of the reasons why you would never be able to pluck up the courage to have a boudoir session for yourself.
You're not alone. In fact, I would bet that you can relate to at least two or three of the most popular excuses that people make for not trying something that they would secretly love to experience.
Top 10 excuses not to have a boudoir portrait session
- I have no one to give my photos to
- I need to lose a few pounds before I can feel comfortable in front of the camera
- I look terrible in front of the camera
- It’s too expensive
- I’m not sexy enough for that sort of photos
- This is really just an excuse for a stranger to see me naked
- I’m too old for a boudoir photoshoot
- I’m worried that someone I don’t want to see my photos will see them
- I don’t see the point in boudoir photography
- I don’t like the way my body looks
Did you find any of your favourite excuses on that list?
The truth is that there is not one good reason in the list above to not treat yourself to a boudoir photoshoot - It is an experience that will boost your self-esteem and make you feel great about yourself - So let’s take a look at that list and see if we can scratch off some of the excuses that are stopping you from doing something great for yourself!
I have no one to give my photos to
It’s true - boudoir photography makes a great gift for someone you love. Both bridal boudoir and anniversary shoots are extremely popular as a sexy and personal gift for your partner. However, there is another element to this gift that isn’t immediately obvious: The person giving the gift gets a real confidence boost seeing themselves in a new light, and that boost in confidence often results in them being more open in their intimate relationship.
You may have no one to give your photos to as a gift, but the biggest part of that gift is to yourself: Your self-confidence will soar and that will have a positive effect on you and those around you.
I need to lose some weight before I book a boudoir session
How long will you wait to be at your ideal weight?It may be true that you have been steadily working towards a weight goal - losing a predetermined amount every week - and you are looking forward to booking your boudoir session as part of the reward for reaching your goal. That’s great!
But if really you are constantly putting off the shoot because you feel that you are not the right weight, period then you only need to pause for a moment to look through my online gallery to see that there is no “ideal” weight for someone to have a boudoir session. You will see ladies of all shapes and sizes, proud of their figures and loving the results of their time in front of the camera.
Don’t let someone else’s definition of what makes an ideal bodytype deter you from enjoying a photoshoot that will help you to see that yours is the ideal body for you.
I look terrible in front of the camera
You know who looks terrible in front of the camera? Me. I hate having my photo taken, and it is perhaps one of the reasons that I became a photographer :-)
But being a photographer, I also know that there is a world of difference between a professionally crafted photograph and a snap taken quickly from a mobile phone.
The first thing we will work on together is getting you relaxed in from of the camera.
From there, I will guide you into poses that flatter your body, with lighting that shows of your favourite features and hides anything that you prefer not to show.
I guarantee that you will be amazed at your boudoir portraits and the next time that you come out bad in a photograph, you can blame the person that took the picture and not yourself!
It’s too expensive
Whilst it is true that boudoir photography isn’t quite as cheap as getting your passport photo taken, you might be surprised at how affordable it actually is. This is especially true if you venture outside of the US where a shoot with a famous photographer may cost you several thousand dollars.
I price my sessions at a very affordable rate, starting at only 250€ for a session that includes hair and makeup and 60-90 minutes of studio time. This may still sound expensive to many, but this cost covers several hidden costs including insurance, editing, equipment, etc.
Of course you can add items to your session that increase the cost, such as shooting in a hotel suite, additional time for more outfit changes, deluxe albums of your photos, for example. These are all optional, and fairly priced.
Almost everyone has budget constraints. When you consider whether it is worth investing in yourself, take a few moments to compare the cost of your shoot to other things: One monthly car payment, a couple of months of phone payments, a new pair of shoes? None of these things are permanent - But your photoshoot is: You are creating a legacy for yourself that you will want to look back on over and over again.
Just one word of advice: If a photographer's rate seems too good to be true, it probably is!
I’m not sexy enough for that sort of photos
Cut that out right now! Of course you are :-)
Almost everyone will say that about themselves - Let’s face it: We are our own worst critic. We ignore complements we receive and focus on our imperfections.
Someone tells us what a nice smile we have and we comment on our crow’s feet. They complement how well defined our legs are and we can’t let the moment pass without replying with a comment about the varicose veins we have.
Let someone else show you how sexy you are for a change and you will hopefully see for yourself - perhaps for the first time in a long time - just how right they are.
This is really just an excuse for a stranger to see me naked
Understandably, unless you know the person that is going to take your photos, then this thought will pass through your head. And rightly so. There is no way you are going to have a successful boudoir shoot unless you can trust the person behind the camera.
It might matter to you whether they are a man or a woman. Initially many women decide that they would prefer another woman to take their photograph, but upon reflection they wonder whether they may be judged by another female looking back at them.
Take the time to learn about the boudoir photographers in your area, and seek out the opinions of friends that have had a photoshoot with them. Be absolutely sure that they are a good fit and that you are going to be able to work together to make some wonderful images.
It doesn’t really matter what sex your photographer is as long as you feel confident and relaxed with them. Trust your instinct and go with someone who puts you at ease.
I’m too old for a boudoir photoshoot
So here is another great excuse that just doesn’t cut it - Imagine that you use this excuse for the next two years and they finally decide to have a shoot. What changed?
Simply put: You will never be this young again - in your lifetime. You are as young as you are ever going to be - So, why wait?
The most popular age group for boudoir photography is late twenties to early forties - but I have had clients in their fifties and sixties coming in for a photoshoot and loving the results.
The sooner you do your shoot, the longer you will have to look back on your photos and smile - And perhaps repeat the experience further on down the line - What a great way to see in a new decade!
I’m worried that someone I don’t want to see my photos will see them
Yes - privacy is a great concern and appears to be in the news almost every week.
I go to great lengths to protect the privacy of my clients - Images are never posted online. (The ones on my social networks and this website are shown with consent).
I protect your images with a password before sending them to you in a private gallery. If you prefer an even more private experience, we can arrange subsequent meetings to select and then view your finished images.
These images are then given to you on a pen drive, or even as printed photos - so that they never ever have to go up to “the cloud” - 100% private.
I have worked as a boudoir photographer for almost ten years, and I can assure you that almost all of my clients require strict confidentiality. Boudoir is a private, personal experience and it should stay that way.
I don’t see the point in boudoir photography
That is fine - But you did read this far into the article, so perhaps you are looking for someone to convince you that there is a point.
For me, the goal of boudoir photography is to help you realise that you are enough. That your body is unique and it deserves to be celebrated. I can promise you that whatever stage of like you are at, you always look back at photos from a few years ago with a nostalgic feeling of how young you looked and how you didn’t realise how attractive you were when you were actually living in that moment. Boudoir takes that feeling an multiplies it by ten.
It gives you the opportunity to feel feminine and sexy - Not for anyone else, but for yourself. Because when you do, it gives you the confidence to go out and meet the world head-on. It allows you a momento to celebrate being a woman without judgement from those around you.
I don’t like the way my body looks
I think that we covered that one in number 5 already!!
I guarantee that you will love your photos. So much so, that if you don’t, I will give you a full refund and even treat you to a bottle of local wine (they are quite good).
No questions asked.